FATE IS WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU
Fate is what happens to you
Destiny is what you do with what happens to you
The destiny of a spiritual being is to invite God to take charge of fate.
Then fate becomes Providence.
You lose an illusion of control but achieve true connection with the ruler of All.
Then you lose control but you gain mastery.
A materialist person is unable to see beyond his/her own level. A spiritual person on the other hand can understand what a materialist seeks to achieve. But the reverse is not true. The materialist cannot possibly fathom what success means outside of the materialist sphere. He cannot grasps what moves homo spiritualis.